Working Truforgiveness

There is a common misconception with forgiveness the way the ego teaches. It often says that if you forgive someone or something then things will continue on as they were. Such as a partner being cheated on; heartbroken they then take their loved one back. You often hear, "It's okay, I have forgiven them now," and they smile as they go. Yet they throw the cheating back in their partner's face, "You hurt me. You better make this up to me!" This is forgiveness-to-destroy. Whilst I cannot take credit for this terminology, for it comes from A Course in Miracles, it simply means that hidden deep underneath the smile is the simmering anger yet to be truly forgiven. And this type of forgiveness keeps you chained to the belief in separation from Source. The true cause of the guilt that seeks pain, punishment, and problems in time.

With Truforgiveness, you do not make true the events of form, but instead withdraw the darkness. This does not mean that you stay in the situation that seemed to hurt you, for when you undo the guilt within it usually corrects the path you were walking. Yet, you walk with peace and love, even if you let go of the hand you once held tight to.

And I have the perfect example for you now. Many years ago I had a dearly loved greyhound that was walking outside during the day. Tame and terrific she was off the leash as she ambled along with my grandmother. Innocently, she edged off the footpath and near the guttering that ventured onto the road. As my dearly loved Sher squatted down to empty her bladder, still inches from the black tar, a semitrailer came flying past. With the force of the movement it swiftly picked her up and sucked her underneath the tyres and she was no more. Her broken body was left crumbled, torn, unrecognized; as the driver sped off unaware of what had happened. I was just twelve when this occurred, and whilst I was not present I still remember the afternoon I arrived home from my first year of high school to this traumatic news.

I walked in the front door. It was around 4:30 in the spring afternoon. My mother looked glum and invited me into her bedroom to sit down. I had been with Sher for as long as I could remember. She was my best friend, especially being an only child, and she was the one that I whispered my secrets to. Mum said, "Something bad has happened," as she took hold of my hands. My dad was away for work, staying a few hours north. Immediately I spoke, "Is dad okay?" I still remember the terror building inside me. My mum shook her head, but then she needn't say anything more, for I knew. I jumped straight up and went running through the house, "My sister. My sister. It's my sister." I was screaming. As I searched the house I could hear my mum begging me to come back, but I knew she was gone. This would be my first experience of true loss. A loss so deep that it becomes unforgettable to the psyche. 

I honestly have no words to describe what this cream greyhound meant to me. At that age, if I had of had a choice to keep someone in my life it would have been my loyal and loving companion. Such was the bond we shared. Silently we communicated, as she buried my secrets within her. And loved me like no one else had. She was so smart. As all creatures are. And it is time humans came to know the silent way to communicate with them, just as I did and still do.

So, why am I speaking of this incident now to you? Well, this morning, on an overcast day in Sydney I was walking a black greyhound. She is not mine, but it does not mean I love her any less. Well, as we were walking in a quiet street, she decided to veer off the pavement and take her piddle quite close to the guttering. Suddenly, a car came around the bend and instead of driving in her lane, she pulled into the gutter at a flying speed and decided to park 20 metres ahead.

This black beauty looked frazzled as she hastily moved closer to me. I was shocked by what took place, my body started to tremble, as my mind was taken back to the day of destruction I felt those decades ago. 

And so, this is how Truforgiveness works. You are only asked to forgive within when the shadows of separation appear. If you do not clean them up when they come, as I did not when I was a little girl, you will see a similar shadow appear at another time. You are asked to withdraw the shadows you confront. Some are asked to clean up divorce, others might be called to withdraw murder, whilst some are working through the shadow of addiction. This is a very simplified version, but if you continue to truly forgive and not judge, by completing your treasure maps, you will truly heal and change not only your life, but everyone else's. For the picture in time is tormented by the darkness hidden within the subconscious.

For me, this young lady had given me a blessing, for she allowed me to locate the hidden trauma within that I could not process as a 12 year old child. As I walked and my body started to tremble, I could forgive the driver for being unaware of the mistake he made. I could forgive the damage my grandmother went through as a 60+ year woman. I could forgive myself for not saying good-bye to my best friend. I could forgive God, for I once blamed Him (a huge mistake of mine). 

What you think within is what you must clean up. It is time to stop blaming another, for if we all concentrated on cleaning up the mess within our minds imagine how much true healing would happen.

You do you, by truly forgiving whatever you move through and over time miracles will be made. It does not mean you do not correct a brother. However, you must forgive within first, to remove the darkness so you extend light and not project guilt (blame). Then allow the right mind of revelation to guide what you need do in time.

And so, as I sit here now I truly am grateful for this lady that gave me a fright this morning. For she has shown me where I had hidden this trauma that first broke my heart almost 40 years ago now. I will never forget Sher, for true love cannot be parted. Honestly, Sher was my true friend, at a time when I struggled with friendships. If I could say anything to her now it would be, 'Thank you for teaching me what true love is about. I love you.'

Who or what do you need to forgive today and why?

Much love, peace, and Truforgiveness,